2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
When things don't go the way they want !
It is strange to say that lately I have met people who seem to be walking through a hopeless tunnel, and there is no end to it, and the promised light does not appear in any way.
And you can't call them losers or lost on the roads of their barefoot childhood, no. They know how to set goals, plan life, be creative in dealing with difficulties, have a good life experience. They had a certain success in their homeland, and here, in America, they feel good enough.
But out of nowhere, a chain of events is suddenly formed that can even unsettle the strongest: the father is in the hospice, the mother and aunt are bedridden at home, the son has lost his job, the daughter-in-law is about to give birth, the husband has undergone a serious operation, the blood pressure rises. at work, in a real estate agency, stagnation …
The new chief introduced the "motivation program": he intends to cut staff and, first of all, those who do not monitor their own weight …
And the further, the tighter this spring is twisted …
What to do? How to live on? Where to run? Should I go to the Charles River and drown myself?
Sometimes it's easier to adopt a client. But we're not looking for easy ways, are we?
And no matter how terribly the circumstances are, no matter how disgusting it may be, no matter how idiotic my recommendations may seem to you against the background of the total destruction of mental comfort, I will still venture to offer you something from the past. I will immediately explain the meaning of everything that you read next.
Most often, in such a situation, we are fixated on our experiences and the same thoughts, driving them in a circle, like running horses. The world is becoming so narrow that we are unable to see solutions to our countless problems. Is that bad. We become exhausted, tired, indecisive, we feel insolvent, we see no end to our troubles, and most importantly, we stop seeing opportunities to change anything.
Therefore:
1. It is very important to find joyful moments in difficult periods of life. Doses of joy need to be filled every day. It should become a habit. For example, how to drink a glass of water on an empty stomach. Every day. 12 months of the year - Your conscience can turn on when you rejoice in this difficult time. “Oh, how heartless I am! There my husband lies all sick, and I ride a bicycle! At these moments, do not succumb to it. Remember: you are doing this in order to be in an excellent state of mind and to manage your life and the lives of those who depend on you.
2. Give yourself what you need now. Your needs are very important. Remember the instructions for using an oxygen mask on an airplane. In the event of an accident, it is recommended that the mother put it on first, and only after that for the child: when the mother dies, her child is unlikely to survive. When you incorporate joyful moments into your life, you quickly assess the situation, you become more flexible, confident, sensitive to opportunities, active and creative.
3. For one negative experience, you must live three positive emotional experiences. It can be a walk, a cup of coffee with friends, a good movie, playing with a child, inspiring reading - anything that cheers you up. Collect small victories: Mom slept well at night; the son prepared dinner; the boss said "thank you" to you; they gave me a car at the service center … Small victories ignite joy, positivity and creativity.
4. It will be very good if you start the "Joy Magazine", in which every evening you will begin to record your achievements in this field:
What joyful thing happened to me today?
What interesting things have I learned?
What happened, for which I can be grateful to my life, work, family, friends?
What surprised me today?
Was there anything inspiring?
Why record? You will feel joy again, which means that the brain will be cleared of negativity, you will be filled with creative energy, new ideas will come to you.
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