2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
This technique, in my opinion, is good to use for ending an addicted relationship.
Most recently, I had a nice, sweet young girl for a consultation. Let's call her Mary.
Masha really wanted to prove something to the guy who suddenly ended the relationship with her, to the person who blocked her on the social network.
Should I do it?
I think that directly, hardly! For, he will not hear what she wants to convey to him!
What to do when the soul is torn to pieces?
When you don't know where to put the comma correctly in a sentence:
Letting go is not worth knocking on closed doors!
You can do it on a mental level, using a metaphor.
I gave Masha her homework to complete the technique
Forgive and accept. Technique
Thinking over my work with Masha, I realized that this task is still too early for her, and the girl's soul is not yet ready to let go of her former lover forever.
When I saw the method "Man as a phenomenon of nature", I just jumped on the chair, realizing for whom, first of all, I need to clearly prescribe it and refine it to an art-therapeutic mini-training
So, an exercise for ending an addicted relationship
Man as a natural phenomenon
- Think about the person with whom you ended a relationship, but remained an invisible connection and a desire to prove or explain something. It can be, not only a partner / lover, but also a friend / girlfriend, it can be a student or a teacher - in any case, a person with whom you had a meaningful relationship
- Imagine this person as a natural phenomenon - the sun, thunderstorm, rain, snow, or as a forest, taiga, sea, ocean, river, swamp, road, etc.
- It can be concretized with the help of an adjective, for example: "Warm Sun", "Distant Cold Star", "Swamp Swamp", "Tornado sweeping away everything in its path", "Endless Desert", etc.
- Draw this character using crayons or paints
- Take a close look at your drawing. If necessary, add something else
- Write a letter to this natural phenomenon and describe your feelings indirectly through this metaphor. What did you feel when faced with this phenomenon. For example: Not this way: "Misha, I was offended when you blocked me on VKontakte!" And, something like this: “I was lonely wandering over you, Dark Impenetrable Forest! I was waiting for light and warmth, saving lights of settlements, and in response only darkness, cold, pain and fear! I am glad to break out, I have almost made it, a few more steps and I will see a warm string of lights in the distance and tell you: "Farewell, my Dark Impenetrable Forest!" and you will let me go!"
- Figure out how to deliver a response. I like the variation in the exercise below.
- And write a response on behalf of a natural phenomenon. For example: “Dear Masha, when you wandered around me, the Dark Impenetrable Forest, you became more mature, wiser, more resourceful. As you evolved from a child to a woman, you learned to overcome your fear of relationships. Now you have learned this and I am ready to let you go into those relationships that you can already build yourself, as a traveler who is free to choose his own route! And you can go wherever you want, for example, to the Warm Affectionate Coast of the Sea! Good luck, Masha! Be happy!"
I also have this technique:
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