It's Time To Give Yourself A Brother To Become A Truly Adult

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

Thinking out loud…

"Constellations took place yesterday, and there was a lot of insight, vision, hearing … We created a Space for the manifestation of the Soul of everyone who came here that day. Of course, there are no other constellations, and each of us took something of his own, necessary and valuable “here and now.” And I am no exception here. Every time I try to listen and hear, watch and see WHAT is happening in this Space. Something remains deep inside. But something asks into the World in order to share. Perhaps, for some of you reading these lines, this is exactly the most necessary "here and now" …

In one of the constellations, the request was approximately the following. A young beautiful girl (let's call her Olga), outwardly creates the impression of a rather successful and self-sufficient person, and now she says that some kind of zeroing is taking place in her life. She is not married, there is no personal relationship at the present time, a previously successful business "by zero", it seems that something needs to be done, but there is neither desire nor strength. She feels herself standing in the middle of a field that evokes a feeling of total emptiness. There were thoughts of moving to another city, but he did not know where.

A reasonable question: where to go and what to do?

The arrangement begins with the figure of Olga, who stands for a long time and describes everything that was said earlier. And only after the invitation to look inside oneself does something start to change. It’s not easy at first.

And gradually the picture becomes clearer, and Olga begins to feel (!) That a mother is needed here. Mom enters the space, but she cannot come close to her daughter, because daughter does not allow to do this, keeping some strong distance.

And only after careful consideration of this distance, Olga comes to understand that this distance is the emptiness that is with her in real life. And she's just hers.

Mom is standing at the border and just waiting. And here begins a difficult and even painful path of realizing everything that is happening. It takes a lot of time for Olga to start her journey to her mother. First there were whims, then manipulations …

But according to the laws of the Soul, it is not parents who go to their children, but children must come to their parents - in order to become small, because in real life they had (this also happens) to grow up early. And here I would like to say one more separately.

Such children, in spite of their adulthood, remain children in their souls, tk. do not take anything from their parents. And the apparent independence and maturity is actually nothing more than an illusion, because their behavior in the form of whims, manipulations, devaluation of everything that happens in their lives, is nothing more than being stuck in childhood.

Such people always and everything is not enough, no matter how much they are given. And there is also constant depreciation in their lives. This manifests itself in relationships with partners (if they appear at all in life), and with colleagues, and with parents.

And there is only one way out - to see it in your life, to recognize and start moving towards your parents. Because, whatever one may say, you cannot run away from yourself.

And in our life there are unwritten laws that operate regardless of whether we believe in them or not. Bert Hellinger describes the following laws (he called them the orders of Love): "There is no husband without a mother", "Success has a mother's face", etc.

At first, when a person hears this, then, as a rule, a stormy protest begins, but sooner or later, having come to his depth, he begins to see it, because it is really so. We all came into this life at the invitation of two people of whom we are made (whether we like it at first or not, it is pointless to deny, is it not ?!). And to deny this most valuable and life-giving connection is what it means to remain a child in our Soul. And here, too, everything is quite simple - to make a choice and make a decision.

But in real life it is not easy, and it takes years for this awakening, and someone does not wake up at all (and this also happens). And here I always say only one thing: "Listen to yourself. What your soul wants, what your heart wants. "And everyone has their own Path to their parents. Everyone has their own - unique and beautiful, but the meetings at the end of this Path are always the same in that they are filled with endless Joy and Love!, there is necessarily in each of us, it’s just very, very deep … She is there, waiting for us to start looking for her and look inside ourselves, without running away from ourselves to other cities and even countries …

Olga came to her mother. She passed this Path of emptiness in order to become a little girl, to connect with what she always received, but did not take. And there was everything - both tears and sobs, because the Soul wanted it for so long - to become a small child, and this was always lacking.

Now the time has come to take, to be filled with the energy of Love and Life, first from the mother, from the parents, and then from life in the form of endless gifts and opportunities. It's time to give yourself a Brother (in the deep sense of the word) in order to become a truly adult."

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