2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
Such a situation happened the other day. An active and active woman in her early 50s, you know, there are those tireless ones in whom everything burns in their hands, faints right at the rehearsal due to some vascular problems, she is hypotonic. Having regained consciousness, he says that he is working a lot now, a lot of rehearsals, the person is very responsible - he cannot cancel or reschedule, because the time of the reporting concerts does not get enough sleep. At the same time, the son was recently in intensive care, which is why she was very worried. She refused to call the doctor. She also refused to be taken by car, and then her relatives would have overtaken the car. He does not want to be found out, because "our family is not used to the fact that I have some kind of problems, and if my son finds out, he will make me quit my job."
Fortunately, the next day she found out that she had canceled the rehearsals, went to the doctor, and somehow became concerned about her health issues. But this is an incredibly frequent situation when, ignoring desperate cries for help from both the psyche and the body, a person again and again tests himself for strength, accumulating fatigue to the extent that he already wants nothing but to cover himself with his head, and so that silence and complete peace. And very often this is done with the help of illness - for some it turns out to be the only way to rest, stop and catch their breath. Unfortunately, this is far from a cold … More precisely, at first a cold, and then something more serious, so that it takes longer, up to, well, you understand …
In order for us to successfully interact with other people, we need a lot of mental strength, which, in turn, requires replenishment from positive emotions, quality rest, taking care of our health, physical condition, appearance, and so on.
The possibility of high-quality and multifaceted communication is possible with not just the presence of these forces, but with their excess. I am impressed by the division of degrees of fatigue, which is offered by the psychologist O. M. Krasnikova. Conventionally, this can be expressed as a percentage, as from 75% to 100%, where 75% is the limit when fatigue occurs. The state of fatigue requires the organization of rest by means of switching, change of activity, good prolonged sleep.
If a person does not take care of himself, continues to expend energy, reaching the border of 50%, a state of fatigue arises, and it will require not just good rest, but recovery, which will take more time. At this stage, there may be a desire for solitude, avoiding superficial contacts, saving time on not very interesting and significant events.
If a person does not take care of himself again, continues to spend resources, lives "with the last of his strength", then a state of exhaustion arises, requiring a long-term rehabilitation, then, when strength is drawn from the "untouchable reserve", there is exhaustion and diseases requiring treatment.
Our broad Russian soul does everything on a grand scale. However, for some reason, quality rest or care is not included in this scope. Letting go of two weeks a year is negligible, one might say, not only does it not allow you to "reboot", but also really distracts. Moreover, the majority, even on vacation, continue to live with work issues - if not in person, then by phone or via the Internet.
Let's take a look at how to help yourself at the stage of fatigue, when it is possible at the lowest cost. If we are talking about fatigue and deeper, then here you may need the help of specialists and long-term recovery.
1. Work must remain at work. Make a rule not to discuss at home, in a circle of loved ones, your work and some work moments. Now I'm not talking about psychological support if something happened there. If you work from home, then you plan your day in such a way when there is time only for the family - the computer is turned off, papers for work are cleared.
2. Find time at least 20-30 minutes 2 times a week for some feasible sport - dancing, running, morning exercises, exercise equipment - it doesn't matter, the main thing is the ability to move, relieve tension at the body level, change activity.
3. Leave yourself (or gnaw out, what really) time for your favorite and enjoyable activity - playing a musical instrument, reading a book, cross-stitching, and so on, whatever you like - as vital as eating or sleeping. If you can't find a longer time for this activity, that is, the 5-minute rule - do this favorite thing for at least these 5 minutes, and then in another 5 minutes, when they appear again. It is clear that it is more pleasant to sit down and thoroughly immerse yourself in the process, but sometimes it is incredibly difficult that the books remain unread and the hats are not tied. And so - there is a chance at least a little to be distracted by your beloved work. By the way, there are audio books that you can listen to while walking, you can combine painting with children, especially if the child is still sleeping in a stroller, or has already grown so much that he can ride down the slides or play with other children.
4. Dear parents, especially children in the number of more than 2. Yes, you gave birth to children for yourself, and relatives can help if they have the strength to do so. It is difficult to overestimate the participation of grandparents in the life of the family, if they themselves want it and actively offer it. This is also important for children! Asking them to be with the children once a month, letting them go on a date with each other, or on vacation for a week together - this does not mean "throwing children around grandmothers' necks", but to take care of yourself and your relationship, without abuse, of course.
5. Unload everyday life, share household chores with all family members, if they can do it. Especially if everyone is working. I hope that over time, these stories about heroic women who come home from work and carry all the burdens of the economy on their shoulders with other relatives will remain only in memories. For example, a wife might be making a grocery list, but a husband is buying from a store. The dishes can be washed in turn, and cooked immediately for 2-3 days, or by setting aside one day a week for preparations for quick cooking.
6. Alcohol is not a means of relaxation. This is a way to get away from problems, forget about them for a while. Every evening "can of beer" or a bottle of wine on weekends does not promote relaxation, but inevitably leads to alcoholism.
7. This item had to go first:) sleep for at least 8 hours, good nutrition, taking care of your health - these are the necessary conditions for life.
How would you continue this list?
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