2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
“… Perfectionism was not on the list of good habits. No one said that the joy of life or success came to him due to being too demanding of himself. Just the opposite! People said: "The most valuable and important thing in life happens when we dare to be vulnerable, imperfect and kind to ourselves." Brené Brown
The desire to do a good job or to live up to an ideal is not the same as being a perfectionist.
Perfectionism is sticking in a state of “improving” before starting an action
Perfectionism is the frustration of having high expectations for yourself or others.
Perfectionism is the habit of devaluing what is.
Perfectionism is an overestimated requirement for oneself, for people
Perfectionism is the fear of making a mistake, failing, looking ridiculous, stupid.
Perfectionism is all or nothing, right or wrong, good or bad (these are extremes without gaps, black and white without shades)
Perfectionism is constantly evaluating yourself and others, comparing, and always not in your favor
Perfectionism is when you are inactive, sometimes even for years, because you are afraid to start wrong or not perfect.
Perfectionism is dissatisfaction with oneself, one's life, which leads to emptiness, depression, anxiety
Perfectionism is a blind belief that if you do everything perfectly, you can avoid pain, discomfort, shame, criticism.
Perfectionism is the habit of identifying one's value with achievement (believing that success determines the value or “goodness” of a person)
Perfectionism is inaction due to fear of an imperfect result, constant postponement, and, as a result, a paralyzing feeling that nothing will work out.
Perfectionism is always being dissatisfied with your result.
Perfectionism is the tyranny of the inner critic.
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✔️What we are not aware of - controls us.
✔️ The less we are aware of what is happening, the easier it is to control us.
✔️To manage yourself and your life - you need to be able to be aware of your thoughts, feelings and their reasons. And only in this case, there is an opportunity to choose their behavior and beneficial results.
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