2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
I have long wanted to write this text. I put it off somehow.
Indeed, why go to a psychotherapist? And the word "psychotherapy" is somehow frightening, echoing in the hospital.
Forgive me right away, but I will be boring.
First, it's worth deciding on the names. What is psychotherapy?
In 1990, fortunately for all of us, the European Association for Psychotherapy (which includes both medical psychotherapists and psychotherapists-psychologists) defined psychotherapy as a humanitarian discipline and an independent profession.
The goal of psychotherapy is to enhance social and emotional well-being, and to address a wide range of behavioral, cognitive and emotional problems.
I often meet with the fact that due to lack of information, people mistakenly judge the value of psychotherapy.
What is very important to know, even if you have read hundreds of thousands of books on psychology and even (!) You have a relative-psychologist with whom you talk all the time, or you yourself have a psychological education.
Psychotherapy is a long-term process of profound change. This is not about lightening the soul (situationally), although this is also there, of course. It's about the very situations that you find yourself in periodically, the study of how you get into them and how not to get into them.
Why can't you yourself not find yourself where it is bad or painful, or anxious, and not go to a psychologist? This is why it is impossible because you yourself do not notice. You can't see it yourself. And it seems that this is the only way.
Paradoxically, it would seem that when we tell another about ourselves, we separate the problem from ourselves, and question the obviousness of the problem, suffering or unambiguity.
Psychotherapy - in addition to methods, techniques and procedures, which are different in each method, it is also a human relationship. For me, this is primarily a relationship, and then a variety of techniques. This is where the fun begins. Sometimes clients exclude themselves from these relationships, making themselves an object, and not an active creator of their changes, their growth. They ask to do something with them, to somehow influence the problem (hypnosis, put them into a trance, or just do something about it), but only without their active participation.
Why can't the therapist do something instead of the client? So after all, it is impossible to recover instead. And to live well instead of someone else too. You can only do something with your own life and your feelings, experiences.
Often it is not only shame, guilt (not the right thing, I didn’t cope with it), but also impulsiveness, high expectations from the therapist and psychotherapy that interfere with going to a psychotherapist and starting changes. These are people who expect miracles and themselves are ashamed that they are not magicians and wizards in their lives.
For an adult and intelligent person, psychotherapy turns out to be a place of interest in oneself, in one's experiences, in one's choices and reasons for actions. This is a place of deep amazing strength and perseverance, faith in overcoming, in life and joy, creativity and value from what you are.
Olga Lazarenko, psychologist, Ph. D. sciences.
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