Job: Mutual Love Or Eternal Compromise?

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

When we talk about relationships, we often only mean the personal sphere. And we forget that it is work that is the very place where we spend most of our life. This means that the overwhelming number of connections and interactions we have formed there.

Career from childhood

Beliefs and attitudes learned in childhood affect not only what kind of spouses and lovers we are. How we cope with official duties and move up the career ladder also depends on the conventions and unwritten rules that we learned at the beginning of life.

To find a good job, you need to study well. So we are told from childhood. It seems to be a useful and logical statement, but in reality it is not.

Burnout-Free Business: How It Works

The attitude “try harder and achieve more” is the life credo of good performers who work according to clear instructions. Trying harder doesn't mean creating or inventing. The performer cannot think creatively or solve strategic problems. It is capable of maintaining business continuity (serving customers, raking up administrative work, keeping track of a stock of office supplies) - and nothing more. Such employees are easy to replace, their names are rarely remembered and no one cries for them when the people working for the “carrot” burn out. In their place comes new staff, who are fed by willpower and an urgent need for money. Agree, so-so motivation.

Let's try to look at business not as a source of your income or a cause of your anxiety, but as a system that operates according to certain rules. What does the employer want? So that the maximum number of tasks and processes are completed at the lowest cost. And what does the employee strive for? Get as much money as possible with as little effort as possible.

It is good if the aspirations of the employer and the employee are realized by people with healthy personal boundaries. Then the employee, performing the tasks of the manager, is looking for the shortest and most economical way to the goal. And the boss, observing the optimization of operating costs, can afford to reward those who put their hands and head in this.

Freedom to the squirrel in the wheel

And where is the place in this system for "excellent students", "perfectionists", "good boys" and "obedient girls"? They fall into the trap of their correctness and find themselves hostage to the wheel in which they run and which they turn continuously. Seeing no further than the points of their instructions, they are trying to earn the indulgence of the leader, having shouldered a double or even triple amount of work. As a result, the manager saves on staff (non-initiative performers don't really need a career or money), and instead of bonuses and bonuses, the employee gets fatigue and nervous exhaustion.

Nevertheless, there is a way out of this trap, and any scenario of your life can be rewritten by adding to professional skills the ability to feel your boundaries at work, defend interests, realize your own value and see ways for its manifestation. With such an arsenal, it is possible not only to secure a career and constant financial growth, but also to maintain physical as well as emotional health.

If you are a professional in your field, but are not satisfied with what your job gives you, I invite you to my free consultation. Together we will identify factors that hinder career growth, strengthen your personal resources, and also show the way to a new round of your career.