2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
Many of my clients have been communicating with men for a long time on the Internet and say that there comes a time when they feel that it is more comfortable for them not to develop. Because the way everything is happening now is clear and familiar, but in real life she runs the risk of not liking a man, and perhaps he is to her. And the way of life is scary to change - to throw yourself, as if into a pool with your head, into another new incomprehensible and frightening life.
Yes, leaving your comfort zone is always somewhat traumatic. It is good when the transition to a new quality occurs organically, not under unilateral pressure from a partner or other external circumstances. Here it is important to find a fulcrum within yourself and understand what you really want most of all: to attract your resources or to rush towards the alluring unknown.
Much also depends on the man: when a woman feels that her partner has not made a choice, he does not yet know what to offer her - she involuntarily curls up, hides in herself, like a snail in a shell. Moreover, she does not want to be active in a situation of uncertainty, to test her established world for strength, to disrupt her usual way of life.
After all, non-binding, based on your own rich imagination, communication is a kind of drug, on which both partners have already become addicted. Everything is clear, understandable and pleasant here, but what will happen there, beyond the horizon? There is no certainty that everything will go smoothly and the domestic sides will not shake the idyll achieved at the moment.
It's like a kind of avatar that each partner sent instead of himself into a virtual field, and they interact there, quarrel, reconcile, get a buzz from each other - in general, they live their own isolated life, show their movies.
So is it necessary to communicate if in the long term there is no desire to meet in real life? Why not? The girls at the consultations tell how they cannot wait for the evening to finally enter the space of relaxation, positive emotions, eroticism after a busy day. Well, this is everyone's choice: how to stay with a partner, how to build relationships, and now another alternative has been added to this - virtual life.
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