The Power Of Indifference

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

What is indifference? This is an absolute lack of interest in any subject or object. In my opinion, each person should develop the ability to reject what is not interesting and to make a choice in favor of specific things.

But there is a borderline between normal and pathological indifference. Normal is a partial phenomenon. Pathological is already apathy, a sign of a depressive state.

This article is called "the power of indifference" because I want to show how deeply this feeling affects ourselves and other people.

In fact, the ability to say “I don’t care” is necessary for a person and serve as an indicator of the ability to express aggression, say no, and thereby take care of himself, respect himself. Such a position is necessary both in communication in everyday life and in professional development. If we are interested in everything, we will never build a successful career. Excessive curiosity will sooner or later lead to a loss of interest in everything. If we want to cover everything at once, it is unlikely that we have successfully overcome adolescent conflict. One of the main skills of a mature person is the ability to make choices, from which follows the ability to love. Making a choice in favor of something is tantamount to a declaration of love.

Empirical observations show that people who at one time openly declared their indifference to a certain area, a person, are more successful than those who have never lived their own lives and made a choice in favor of others. They were afraid to offend their parents, spouse or spouse, and in the toga, they came to the understanding that their life was wasted.

Indifference helps us make choices for ourselves.

But how does our no affect others? How can our "dislike" hurt a loved one?

Undoubtedly, rejection is like a shot in the heart of a person. And any refusal. Refusal is always followed by anger, aggression, pain, misunderstanding, sometimes even revenge. All this happens on an unconscious level, even if the one to whom we showed our indifference denies it.

Our indifference can destroy a strong marriage, it can shake or, again, spoil our relationship with our parents. Why is this happening ?

Because all people, no matter what they say, expect from others only what they can give themselves. They expect a certain reaction, be it joy, or anger, or at least interest. If the desired reaction does not coincide with the actual reaction, their effect is devalued.

Especially strong indifference hurts manipulators, energy vampires. Their negative action or word "gets stuck" in themselves. It finds no expression. Again, the desired and the actual are not the same.

Who should you really be indifferent to

1) just with those who are trying to humiliate you

2) with those who try to use you as a container for their own emotions

3) with those who manipulate you

4) with those whom you do not trust, whom you do not consider close

Why should we single out the categories of people with whom we allow ourselves to express indifference? Because not everyone deserves it. Not everyone should be punished like that.

A person who has not noticed the negative or positive reaction of another is already in an excellent position. If his behavior is justified. If it is not constant, then you can understand it and not judge.

But if you behave detached with everyone, if you show a lack of interest to everyone and everywhere, this is already your problem. It means that you are either a narcissist, or you yourself are not aware of your depression.

Sometimes you have to be strict with yourself. If you notice the pathological indifference described in the previous paragraph in yourself, work on these. Now you are acting cynical. But what is the reason? That you are taking revenge on everyone for the lack of childish affection and love? Now imagine an elderly person whom no one will listen to, whom no one will help. Do you want to be like this? Of course, this will not happen to you. You know, it might not happen. Perhaps something will change you. But most likely there will be no miracle. Pull yourself together and reflect on how others are feeling. It is important to change it, only next to someone with a sincere interest in someone other than yourself, you can feel happiness.

Well, if you are just trying to blame yourself for normal indifference., or lack of interest in everything, calm down. On the contrary, go on living and behaving the same way. Rejoice in your bold, congruent and mature attitude!